Most children of narcissistic parents or guardians grew up feeling tremendously confused about what love means and how it is supposed to be felt. Their parents or guardians did extremely unloving things to them in the name of love. As a result, they came to understand love as something chaotic, dramatic, confusing, and often painful—something they had to give up their own dreams and desires for. Obviously, that is not what love is all about. Later in adulthood, you will eventually realise how almost impossible it seems to cross that distance, let yourself experience closeness, and how otherwordly love feels now. You will always be spreading love and care towards others, but you flinch away when someone does the same to you. And over and over, you could see so clearly how everything around is mixed with that sensation of distance and coldness. Loving behavior does not grind you down, keep you off balance, or create feelings of self-hatred. Love does not hurt, it feels comforting. Loving...